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Rowena Hutchison's avatar

An important message at any time and very potent for this time of the year. Thank you Shiv for your wonderful writings and warm wishes to you and your family. 🙏🏻❤️

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Thanks as ever for your writing. It connects to ideas I've been having in the last few days about the way I have been resisting or avoiding thoughts that come to mind. Either when relaxing or resting, I've noticed resistance to them—as though I have a desired state I want, and those thoughts aren’t acceptable. Naturally, this creates tension and takes me further from my imagined desired state. And this happens in more subtle ways too, not just when relaxing.

Your article also brings to mind panic attacks, something I had for 6 months when I was 18. I discovered a book called Self Help for Your Nerves by Dr. Clare Weekes, which radically altered my ideas. Weekes’ method involves four principles: Face, Accept, Float, and Let Time Pass. These steps mirror the idea of flowing with reality rather than getting caught in resistance. Just as you suggest letting life (or thoughts) unfold without trying to impose an alternate reality on them.

This mindset of non-resistance also aligns with your point about intuitive intelligence—allowing the body and mind to adapt and self-correct without the interference of overthinking or control. Whether it’s panic attacks, intrusive thoughts, or unexpected life events, releasing attachment to “how things should feel” and instead focusing on moving through what is happening with openness and responsiveness feels like the key.

When you speak about flow, Alan Watts' analogy comes to mind of a schoolboy struggling to learn who is told to "try harder"—so he furrows his brow, tightens his muscles, and strains to concentrate. But this effort, rather than helping him learn, actually blocks his natural ability to absorb and process information. Similar to the shift of moving from straining to float in water (which causes sinking) to trusting the water to hold you up—a metaphor for trusting life’s flow rather than panicking and thrashing against it.

This brings to mind Bruce Lee’s advice to "be like water"—neither rigid like ice nor scattered like gas. Water adapts to its container, moves around obstacles, and can be both serene and forceful, depending on what the moment calls for. It flows without losing its essence. In the same way, allowing flow—whether in thoughts, emotions, or life events—means letting things move without clinging to fixed forms or thrashing against them. It’s not passivity but a kind of active surrender, where responsiveness replaces resistance.

Flow, floating, and even communication seem to emerge naturally when we stop trying to force them—when we’re no longer tightening up or holding on too tightly to expectations of how things should unfold. Instead, they arise from being present with what is, trusting that the deeper intelligence you describe knows how to carry us through.

Like the snowboarder responding to the terrain, it’s about keeping attention on the moment as it unfolds—not bracing against it or trying to pre-empt it. Whether navigating thoughts, emotions, or life events, the challenge seems less about controlling the path and more about learning to ride it.

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